Comparison to others and sky-high expectations about ourselves is often framed as a competitive motivational tool. However, it often results in self-criticism and discontent. I see it in myself and in others that I coach and support.
During COVID, if you have some semblance of financial stability or security during this time, the pressure to use this time for self-improvement, reflection, reading, self-care, etc. is rampant and dangerous.
And, I am one of the people telling you to take care of yourself. Telling you to find a way to engage with black and brown people in a meaningful way if you care about eliminating racism. Last week, I told you about my coping mechanisms like audiobooks, exercise and even regular sex.
And, yet, I am telling you right now to lower your expectations. Your #1 goal in a pandemic is to survive with your health, both mental and physical, intact. Your #1 goal is the health and safety of your family, to the extent that you have some control over your immediate household and what you do.
Second, if you have a job, your #2 is to keep you job such that you can provide for yourself.
Listen to this episode as I outline 3 Steps to lowering your expectations in a way that actually promotes long-term success as the person you want to be.
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