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Reviewing My Progress on 2019 Goals: A 90 Day Check-In

In today’s show, I am taking inventory of the first 3 months of 2019.   This year, I want to make a habit of checking in with myself every 90 days (quarterly) to see how I am tracking against the goals that I set for myself for the year.

I set goals in multiple areas of life: Spiritual, Financial, Health, Marriage, Parenting, Personal Development, and Relationships.

I'll review each area briefly, starting with my PUSH Goal.  This is a concept I learned from Michael Hyatt in a goal-setting course.  A push goal isn't necessarily your most important goal, but it is the goal that will have the biggest impact if you can achieve it.  It can start a domino effect to help you achieve your other goals. 

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  1. PUSH Goals:  Plan meals each week and track food daily
    1. What is going well:
      1. Planning Meals!  
      2. I did meet with a registered dietitian and that has superseded the tracking goals, in that it’s taking a long time to get my...
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What Self-Love Demands of You

Hopefully, you've recovered from the onslaught of "love" from Valentine's Day.   Flowers, candy, and romantic love were everywhere.   But, once the day was over (and maybe during it), did you truly feel love? 

What did you say to yourself on February 13th or on February 15th? 

In this episode,  I’ll share 5 things about self-love that are critical if you want to have peace and joy, even if your life is busy and chaotic right now:

  • How self-love is different from self-care
  • Self-love requires you to talk differently  
  • Self-love demands that you advocate for yourself
  • Self-love teaches you to forgive yourself
  • Why self-love matters to you, your marriage and your kids

If you're pressed for time, you can get a summary below, but the full explanation is in the podcast.

 

1. How self-love is different

Get a massage.  Get a manicure.  Get a babysitter and take yourself out.   Those are all great...

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12 Lessons from 12 Years of Marriage: Lessons 1-3 (Part 4)

This is the final episode in this series where I share key lessons from 12 years of marriage. 

Lessons 4-12 were not in a particular order, but 1-3 are.  These are the 3 most important lessons that have shaped our marriage.   

These lessons are what have made the most difference in our marriage. They are what I would tell an engaged or newly married couple if I only had a few minutes to share some advice. 

In this episode, I focus on the following lessons: 

  • Lesson 3: Teamwork makes the dream work
  • Lesson 2: Pray together daily
  • Lesson 1: God must be at the center

If you didn't listen to Part 1Part 2, or Part 3, with lessons 4-12, check them out:

  • Lesson 12: Change Yourself.  Don't try to change your husband. 
  • Lesson 11: Being vulnerable helps you be understood
  • Lesson 10: Cheerleading is a skill you must learn 
  • Lesson 9: You have to advocate for yourself.
  • Lesson 8: Kids are a gift from God, but...
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12 Lessons from 12 Years of Marriage: Lessons 4-6 (Part 3)

lessons love marriage sex Jan 17, 2019

 (photo credit: Lawrence Neeley)

In this series (4 episodes) I am sharing key lessons that I wish I had known when we first got married as well as some lessons that can only be learned along the way to building a healthy and strong and vibrant marriage.

In this episode, I focus on the following lessons: 

  • Lesson 6: Like is a feeling.  Love is an action. 
  • Lesson 5: It will be the things you don’t plan for that determine the success of your relationship
  • Lesson 4: Great sex is a by-product of a great marriage (not the other way around)

If you didn't listen to Part 1 or Part 2, with lessons 7-12, check them out:

  • Lesson 12: Change Yourself.  Don't try to change your husband. 
  • Lesson 11: Being vulnerable helps you be understood
  • Lesson 10: Cheerleading is a skill you must learn 
  • Lesson 9: You have to advocate for yourself.
  • Lesson 8: Kids are a gift from God, but shouldn’t be the center of your entire world
  • Lesson 7: My...
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12 Lessons from 12 Years of Marriage: Lessons 7-9 (Part 2)

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(drawing credit: Steven Green)

In this series (4 episodes) I am sharing key lessons that I wish I had known when we first got married as well as some lessons that can only be learned along the way to building a healthy and strong and vibrant marriage.

If you didn't listen to Part 1, with lessons 10-12, check it out here:

  • Lesson 12: Change Yourself.  Don't try to change your husband. 
  • Lesson 11: Being vulnerable helps you be understood
  • Lesson 10: Cheerleading is a skill you must learn

In Part 2, I focus on the next 3 key lessons: 

  • Lesson 9: You have to advocate for yourself.
  • Lesson 8: Kids are a gift from God, but shouldn’t be the center of your entire world
  • Lesson 7: My interests are my interests and so are yours

Tune into the episode to hear specific examples for each of these lessons and learn how you might apply them to your own marriage.

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12 Lessons from 12 Years of Marriage: Lessons 10-12 (Part 1)

lessons marriage prayer Jan 02, 2019

 

So 12 years of marriage you ask? That's right!

I know you can't believe I'm that old, but, my husband and I celebrated 12 years of marriage this past September. I thought it would be a great opportunity for me to reflect on some of the lessons that I've learned in this time.

If you've listened to the podcast before, you've heard me talk about marriage quite a bit.  And, of course, the first word in WifeMotherLeader is wife. 

In this series (4 episodes) I am going to share some lessons that I wish I had known I'm starting out and just some lessons that you learned along the way to build a healthy and strong and vibrant marriage.

In Part 1 (podcast episode #15), I focus on lessons 10-12. 

  • Lesson 12: Change Yourself.  Don't try to change your husband. 
  • Lesson 11: Being vulnerable helps you be understood
  • Lesson 10: Cheerleading is a skill you must learn

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The Marriage Secret No One Is Telling You About

marriage prayer Mar 09, 2017

My ears perked up as I listened to Pastor Sid start sharing marriage statistics. Cullen and I were engaged. We were actively thinking about how to be intentional about building a healthy, thriving marriage.

Pastor Sid shared about how the divorce rate, even for Christians, was 50%. That was not particularly inspiring. Then, there was a “but.” He went on to share a statistic that would change the course of our marriage (which hadn’t even started yet) and our lives.

“Less than 1% of couples who pray together daily get divorced.” Wait, what?! Did he just reveal the secret to a successful marriage?

Wasn’t it more complicated than that? What about communication, forgiving one another, and mutual respect? Didn’t we have to go on regular date nights? Wasn’t he going to tell Cullen to make sure that he took on chores at home and didn’t focus only on work? Wasn't he going to tell me to ask for what I needed and not always put myself...

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